Walk this Way

A few days ago, I was expressing some frustration to my husband about people’s perception of me. “I am not intimidating!  Why do people keep saying this?”, I said. Ever the Enneagram 2, in the most gentle way possible, my husband said, “Baby, you walk like your daddy.” Hand on my hip, I gave him the side eye.  My whole life I’ve been told how much like my dad I am.  My dad used to be 6’3″, 225-pound football player, he was an imposing figure.  Even at 74 and not quite the imposing 6’3″, he’s still intimidating.  His physical presence often puts people on alert, not to mention his voice.  However, my husband wasn’t referring to my dad’s physical presence, but his personality presence.  And unfortunately, or fortunately, I share that. I’ve learned that when I enter a room, people often choose sides, even when they don’t fully know what they’re for or against.  It’s the same for my dad.  People decide in a moment if they are for him or against him.  If they’re for him, there’s often no way to persuade them not to follow him, if they’re against him, there’s no stopping their opposition.  This is not learned behavior for me, it’s just in the fabric of who I am.  And that’s ok. My dad has often encouraged me to follow his lead in leadership, ministry, and life.  He taught me to drive, to shoot a basketball (which could still use some work), to make perfect scrambled eggs, and how to be a good disciple of Christ.  Truthfully, my dad taught me to “walk this way”. In Luke 5, Jesus sets a “walk this way” idea for his disciples.  They’ve been fishing all night, Jesus shows up, tells them to try again.  They are astonished by the amount of fish they bring in.  Then, Jesus says, from now on, you will be fishers of men.  Jesus had been teaching from the very boat that had been frustrated with the night before.  Jesus had already been fishing for men before he ever introduced the idea to his newfound disciples.  For the next 3 years, they would literally walk with Jesus.  They would get lessons every day on how to “walk this way”. Jesus’ love for humanity is ultimately shown on the cross.  He encourages us to “walk this way” in  1 John 3:6 “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters.” I don’t know about you, but I haven’t died for anyone.  I often think to lay down our lives means to do anything to see people come to a saving knowledge of Jesus. When Jesus called the disciples, he told them to “walk this way.”  When Jesus calls us, he tells us to “walk this way.”  Some of us need to learn to walk like our daddy.  We need to learn that Jesus has called us and given us the gifts, talents, personality, and grace to walk like him.

Accidentally On Purpose

“Direction, not intention gets you to your desired destination.”
Andy Stanley

True confession: I am terrible with directions. I have been known to pull out of my driveway the wrong way. A lot of that is the process of habit.  I turn left out the drive because most days of my life I turn left out of my drive.

My kids will attest that sometimes we end up somewhere “accidentally on purpose”. Let me explain.

“Accidentally on purpose” is where you set out to a specified destination. Get lost. Arrive at another completely different destination and turn to your kids and say “we are here.”  And “here” is not where you set out to end up at all.

Life has been a constant arrival of “heres” in my life.  Outside of few rare occurrences, many of my arrivals have been by accident lacking purpose. Not to negate the reality that life is part adventure and part of the adventure is the discovery of the unknown.  But too often the unknown has been found because there was not a clear direction to where I was going.

The prophet Jeremiah wrote the captives what God was speaking.  It was “I know the plans I have for you…”  God in his usual banter with me says “Jeff, if I have a plan for you, how come you seem to live by accident?”

Oops.

I won’t “accidentally on purpose” become who God has intended for my life to become.  I won’t “accidentally on purpose” arrive at the destination God has for me. I never seem to “accidentally on purpose” live the life laid out for.

Those things only happen when we have purpose. What I have found in my life is when I have misplaced purpose I end up with misplace passions. The passions of my life never change. The passion to communicate, to help people, to live a life full. Yet what happens is when I lack purpose those passions get placed in areas that do not directly get me where God’s plan is leading.

And where I end up is “here” accidentally on purpose.

So the shift is to live with purpose.  Purpose requires decision making, not always my favorite activity.  Purpose requires choosing myself while loving and serving others. Purpose means moving past good intentions to live with action. Purpose means facing fears and opposition and standing strong in the face of both. Purpose means picking a destination and then setting a course to get there.

Otherwise you just end up “here” accidentally on purpose.

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